Love yourself

One fine evening…

Vera: Mummy, if I get knock by a car and fall down, you will come and help me right?

Me: [a little taken aback as a mental picture starts to form.] Of course I will help you…Because I love you.

Vera: You will help me because you love me, right?

Me: Yes, I love you…just like you love me and daddy, right?

Vera: Vera love everybody! Vera love nai-nai, ah-ma-nai-nai, ah-gong, ah-ma, and godma and godpa also. I also love myself. You love yourself right?

Me: Yes, we must love ourselves because God loves us, and He made each of us special.

Vera: We haven’t pray, mummy.

Me: Oops…yes, let’s pray and thank God for making us special, and for loving us.


And so we did.

As I lay beside my precious child, I began to think of the ways where I haven’t fully been loving myself. Those times when I think that I’m not good enough, those times when I envy others, those times when I don’t dare to try, those times when I respond in fear rather than by faith.

But if God loves me in spite of all my flaws and failures, how can I not love myself? If I can’t really love myself, how can I teach my children to love themselves and others?

So…how exactly can we love ourselves? Here are just a few simple ways:

  • Don’t allow others to belittle you or put you in a box. (Yes, that includes you.)
  • Take care of your mind, body, health and fitness.
  • Take responsibility for your own life and don’t depend on others for approval or decision-making.
  • Choose to be thankful, for even the little things in life.
  • Develop meaningful friendships — ones that build up, not tear down.
  • Cultivate a healthy view of yourself. Have confidence in your strengths and abilities, while being aware of your weaknesses and working on them at the same time.
  • Stay humble and keep learning.Β Don’t be afraid of making mistakes, and don’t be afraid of trying.
  • Make room to dream. Set goals, and take small steps towards achieving them.
  • Maintain close links with family and loved ones.
  • Treat yourself to something nice from time to time. (Particularly important if you are a mum.)


I’m beginning to appreciate such thought-provoking conversations like these with Vera. They never fail to remind me of what’s truly important in life.

Do you love yourself?

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  1. says

    So true! So often ppl think loving others shd b the priority & while that is important so tt we dont become self-centered egomaniacs, people tend to forget that we should love others as much as we love ourselves! If you don’t love yourselves then how can you love others?

    Thanks for the reminder πŸ™‚

  2. says

    I’ve been loving my kids more than anything and more than myself. I really should start focusing on loving myself too because you’re right, the children will learn from you. You’re always a great reminder πŸ™‚

  3. says

    You know I never really learnt this until I got older. Now as a mom, I’m always looking for ways to affirm Sophie and build her up. To remind her to see herself for who God designed her to be and love her own uniqueness. And yes. it’s something that I’m still reminding myself each day too.

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