I watched as father and daughter disappeared into the sandy distance on the back of this horse named Golden. (We were enjoying our last evening at Golden Sands, Batu Ferringhi Beach, Penang.)
It was a beautiful moment to behold.
There and then I realised that the kids are growing up sooner than I know. And there will come a time when they would want to ride on a horse by themselves, and travel to places far and wide.
That regardless of how much I long to be by their side, I will have to let them go. They will need to forge their own path, and seek their own adventures. And I will need to set aside my motherly fears and worries and release them to be where God wants them to be.
I am shaking as I type this.
I know we will struggle. Don’t we as parents hope and pray for the good life, complete with picture-perfect moments, for our children?
It’s the reason why we stress over getting a place in a reputable primary school.
It’s the reason why we want our kids to learn and grow, and reach their fullest potential.
It’s the reason why we willingly spend our time and resources to research, buy and cook the most wholesome foods for them to eat.
It’s not that we have a herd mentality, or that we just can’t lose out. It’s just that we want the best for them…the best that we have to give.
But even as we do our best for them, I’m reminded that if we trust God, and entrust them to Him, they will be receiving His best and His best is definitely, infinitely, better than our best.
As the kids grow, and reach new milestones in life…
- I pray that we’ll find the courage and conviction to let go, bit by bit at the right stage.
- I pray that we will not be afraid of allowing them to go through setbacks, and pick up important life lessons they need to learn, such as coping with mistakes. That by falling down and getting up, they will learn resilience, perseverance, and to make wise choices.
- I pray that we will walk this parenting journey with faith, and not fear.
- I pray we will not wish for a safe, sheltered life for our kids, but rather lives that are filled with purpose, adventure and worthy pursuits.
Meanwhile, I’m gonna wish that time would move a tad slower for all of us. And I’m going to relish their childhood, collect precious memories, and equip the kids with wisdom and values that will be a strong foundation for life.
What are your thoughts about seeing your children grow up?