Do you hold certain stereotypes of your child?
I tend to think my boys just cannot organise themselves well, and are generally quite messy.
Just this week, however, one of them proved me wrong.
When scooping out yoghurt for himself and his siblings, he took care not to drip the yoghurt on the table. When he needed to grab another spoon to clean out the yoghurt spoon, he asked for help to hold that spoon. When he came back, he gingerly cleaned out the yoghurt spoon.
When I saw the amount of care he put into this simple action, I was surprised. And I said, “Wow, JJ, I like how you scooped the yoghurt so carefully and cleanly.”
This is one of the first few times I have used those adjectives on him. He was probably surprised too.
It taught me not to hold on to my stereotypes of him so tightly. Because every person has the potential to transcend the limits we place on them in our minds.
It also taught me to open my heart to see and behold the good.
Our children are capable of growth; they are capable of doing great things, if only we will let them out of the box we have placed them in in our minds.
“Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.” – Phil 4:8