Do you feel like the year has just taken off like a very angry bull and you’re being dragged along in the sand?
I felt a bit like that in the past week.
So I dug in my heels, and hit “pause” on some of the areas of life that I could. And then I learnt about what Viktor Frankl (renowned neurologist, psychiatrist and Holocaust survivor) did for his clients. In his famous book “Man’s Search for Meaning,” he wrote:
“So live as if you were living already for the second time and as if you had acted the first time as wrongly as you are about to act now!”
And I asked myself this question: If you could do the year 2016 all over again, what would you do?
If I could do the year all over again, I would:
- yell less (practise compassion)
- connect with my husband more
- listen to friends with my whole being
- fret about my imperfections less
- enjoy my loved ones more
- declutter our lives (keep our things and schedules simpler)
This method of thinking back, and allowing hindsight to teach us, is actually a therapeutic method used by Viktor Frankl in helping his clients find meaning in life, and create a more meaningful life.
It is about not letting life take you by the reins or allowing busy-ness to overwhelm your days; it is about living the most meaningful and productive life possible. It is also about letting go of trivial and energy-draining matters, because you keep your eye on the bigger picture – the goals and theme for your life.
Because of this, I’m not doing any resolutions this year. Instead, I’m letting this list of what I would have done differently last year, guide my actions and choices this year.
To yell less, I’m going to recognise that there are several degrees of yelling, and the worst should only be used in times of serious danger. I’m going to be conscious to minimise the degrees each time, and work on recovering quickly. I’m going to recognise my anger triggers too.
To connect with my hubby more, I’m going to use this list to help myself: 30 ways to love your husband.
I will share more on the blog in the coming weeks, as I work out more strategies to live well and spend my time fruitfully this year.
Let’s also adopt a growth mindset and be kinder to ourselves this year. I think this is crucial if we hope for our kids to cultivate same growth mindset for themselves.
Now tell me…If you could do it all over again, what would you do differently?