Reflections on father’s day

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“A father is a son’s first hero and a daugther’s first love.”

I came across this quote recently and thought it was so true.

JJ looks up to daddy. He wants to grow big and strong like him. (And that’s what we say when we want him to eat his veggies. Heh.)

Vera wants to him to be her boyfriend. (And I know I can’t be jealous of this one.)

The way daddy treats her will set the standard for her to know how exactly how she should be treated by her suitors.

We had a simple father’s day celebration last week, just enjoying the usual things that we do, in an extra special way. As I thought about fathers and the irreplaceable role they play in the lives of our little ones, I realised something… That despite their macho exterior, men need encouragement and affirmation too. Especially when it comes to parenting, an area where everyone is learning on our feet. Fathers need to know that they’re doing okay, and that they aren’t messing up.

If you are a father, what kind of encouragement do you crave for? If you are a mum, what kind of encouragement do you think your husband needs? Do hop over to read my post-Father’s day reflections over at Focus on the Family’s blog, and leave a comment there!

Weathering waves

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This picture was taken during our Bali trip. The hubby was in a philosophical mood.

As we were strolling away from the rocks, he said to me something like this:

The waves keep coming in and crashing against those rocks.

Sometimes we are at the high point of the wave, riding it, and sometimes at its lows. But whatever it is that tries to knock us down, we can stand up again.

And God also uses these waves to smoothen our rough edges, to shape and mould us.

Me: Yup, and we are now at the low point…

Him: But things will get better. We just have to trust.

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The hubby isn’t always in such a reflective mode. I’m usually the one (I think). But recent challenges in our lives have probably prompted him to dig deeper than usual.

Not that I’m masochistic, but in some ways I’m thankful for the small trials in life. They don’t knock you over, or shake you to the point of defeat. But they do shake you enough, out of your complacency or comfort zone, pushing you to grow in ways that you normally wouldn’t.

Someone recently shared this quote with me, and I thought it was pretty insightful.

“It’s in times of crisis that we see who Christ is.”

The best thing a father can do

I came across this quote the other day by John Wooden, a renowned basketball coach.

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“The best thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother.”

It struck a deep chord within me, as I reflected upon our marriage and parenting journey over the past few years. In our society and culture in Singapore, we often see a father as the provider, protector, and strength of the family. Granted, many mothers today also play these roles to varying extents.

And as I think about this simple quote, I realise that the roles and responsibilities that a father often shoulders are in actual fact so closely linked to, and can be boiled down to this one thing — LOVING HIS WIFE. He can’t fully provide if the marriage is in shambles, neither can he fully protect.

But when the love within the marriage is strong, even when trials and challenges present themselves, the family stands a good fighting chance of weathering them together.

So today, I just want to express my thankfulness and love for the man in my house — my God-fearing, loving and also laughter-inducing husband, who also helps out with the kids as much as he can.

Although we may be walking through some challenging circumstances right now, I know things will be alright. As long as we walk hand-in-hand, our hearts open to God in obedience, He will surely carry us through.

A loving marriage is the foundation of a strong, healthy family. Do you agree?

Read also: The power of a father

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