Some days I feel overwhelmed.
By the things I’ve got to do, by the kids acting up, by the conflicts I’ve got to manage and resolve. Some days it just gets a little too heavy to bear.
And I start to react.
I start to scream. In my head or out loud.
I start to feel like my world is caving in.
That’s when I know I need to call for time-out.
I’d send an SOS message to the hubby. It’d read something like, “I’m feeling damn crappy, I need to get out of here.”
And (during the moments when I don’t feel out of control) I’d try to communicate to the kids too. “Vera, JJ, mummy is feeling mad. I’m going to go downstairs, get a cup of coffee and calm down.”
That’s the better scenario. Often, I would have screamed and let it all go already.
…I’ve learnt that feeling overwhelmed isn’t necessarily an evil thing.
If we listen to our bodies, it’s signaling to us how it’s doing every day.
You’re tired – get some rest.
Your mind is bogged down by work – relax, go for a walk, write down the things you have to do, and prioritise them.
You’re upset at the kids for not listening to your instructions – see if you can do things differently, instead of saying it louder, use a softer voice to make them pay attention, let them feel the consequence of their actions, rather than keep nagging at them.
Often when I feel overwhelmed, I send out SOS-es to my hubby or girlfriends, asking for prayers.
I share with someone who will listen without judging.
I check my schedule and cut down on things that can wait.
By doing these things, I’m telling myself that I care for ME. I need to take care of my needs and sanity, before I can tackle the rest of my responsibilities.
Most of all, overwhelmed is a big sign, telling me to STOP. Reminding me to sit and find rest at His feet.
If you’re feeling overwhelmed today, take time out, seek Him, and He will give you rest.
(PS. Here’s a line from a song that I’ve been listening to.)