You’ve given me many gifts throughout our marriage but today I’d like to single out two of these.
Laughter. And zen.
Since our dating days, you’ve already been making me laugh. I guess that’s what attracted me to you in the first place. Sometimes it’s a silly joke, or the funny things you say or do.
Then when we had our first baby, things got stressful for a long while as we adapted to the new life. I often had difficulty seeing the lighter side of things but you helped me along.
And now as we settle into life with three, you recently cracked me up again. So hard it actually hurt my ribs a little.
Because of you, I now believe that every married couple who wants to stay married must laugh. A lot…
You’re also the zen one.
My friends used to label me zen, but that was before kids came into the picture.
Today I’m often frazzled and stressed out as a mum (perhaps more seasoned now and able to let go, but still…)
You on the other hand are usually calm and patient. It takes a lot for the kids to drive you up the wall. (But when you do get there you tend to stay there for a long time.)
You’ve taught and encouraged me to stay calm, and not shout or yell to get my way.
Just the other night when JJ was acting up, you were just about to cane him. But I went in and started to speak to him in a low calm voice. And I believe that it somehow helped to calm him, and you, down as well. When we left the room, I felt a sense of peace. I was like, hey I can do this parenting thing without yelling.
Granted I still have my moments, but I think it’s because of you that I’ve come this far.
What is it they say about a partner bringing out the best in a person. Yeah I think something like that has happened around here.
Every marriage needs a variety of ingredients to thrive. For me, the laughter and zen that you’ve brought to my life (and the family) have been both precious and practical.
Of course then there’s the romance and communication aspects that could always have room for improvement. But I shall save those for another post.
Thank you for making marriage and family life fun and calm for me. We’ve come a short distance, and we still have a long way to go. But I’m glad to be walking this road of life and love (plus a bit of crazy) with you.
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