It’s Thanksgiving Day today. And what better to say ‘Thank you’ to our spouses and loved ones than by loving them?
Here’s a list I recently came across of 100 ways to love your husband his way. We often love the way we want to be loved. However…often ‘our way’ may differ from ‘his way’. For example, a woman likes to express and receive love by communicating and sharing about our feelings. But a man may prefer to express and receive love by doing fun things together. (I guess this is a common stereotype, but it may hold some truth.)
I won’t copy and paste the entire list here. But here are 15 ways that really spoke to me.
- Respectfully communicate with him.
- Protect his dignity on a daily basis.
- Foster an atmosphere of laughter in your home. Look for ways to laugh together.
- When you go out on a date together don’t bring up problems—have fun instead.
- Focus on what he’s doing right, instead of focusing so often on the negatives.
- Give him special time with you apart from the children.
- Give him time to unwind after he gets home from work. Your evenings will be much more enjoyable.
- Be creative when you express your love, both in words and in actions.
- Talk with him about having specific family goals for each year to achieve together to feel closer as a marital team.
- Extend God’s grace to him and be forgiving when he offends you.
- Give him time to be alone. (This energizes him to reconnect at other times.)
- Tell him how proud you are of him for who he is (giving him specific reasons).
- Give advice in a loving way — not in a nagging or belittling way.
- Honor him in front of the children (differ respectfully in private when necessary).
- Look your best—dress to honor him and make him proud to be seen with you.
Takeaways for me:
– Respect him and protect his dignity (Part and parcel of giving your man the honor he deserves in the home and out.)
– Focus on laughter and having fun together (This should be easy, hmm, but why is it that sometimes we digress from fun to ‘get things done’?)
– Focus on his strengths and build him up (Need to do this more consciously.)
– Give him time with me, and to be alone (Now we hardly have time alone together, except at night when the kids are asleep. Which is another reason why I am thankful the kids are usually down by 8.30pm.)
– Don’t nag (Guilty.)
– Forgive (Can’t do this often enough.)
– Look my best (I struggle with this one, now that I feel like I have absolutely no time to myself. Excuses, excuses.)
Which ways of loving are most relevant to you, and which is the one you find the hardest?
Btw, there’s a ‘100 ways to love your wife‘ too. Print this out for your man yeah? 😉