1 Easter weekend, 2 bleeding episodes, 3 CTG scans = 1 traumatised mama

Pregnancy Week 35

21 April, 4.20pm:

  • enroute to wang cafe, chevron house, for tea-break
  • toilet stop, sudden bleeding, pinkish-red
  • I still proceed to wang cafe, at the same time calling gynae
  • gynae says “come down to clinic immediately”
  • worried, I call for a cab to Thomson Medical

21 April, 5.10pm:

  • I arrive at gynae, and she promptly does an internal examination
  • gynae discovers a blood clot, which she promptly removes
  • cervix not dilated, no contraction pain, so it doesn’t look like labour has begun
  • baby still in breech position
  • she does an ultra-sound to check on the placenta (rules out danger of placenta dislodging itself from the womb)
  • as clinic is closing, she sends me to the labour ward for CTG (cardiotocography) scan, which monitors the baby’s heartbeat
  • sent home (finally) at 6.30pm, after bleeding was confirmed to have stopped and baby’s heartbeat reading was found normal
  • gynae’s instructions: if there is further bleeding / contraction pain / baby stops moving, repeat check-up at labour ward immediately
  • prescribes more rest over the weekend

22 April, 10.45am:

  • bleeding starts again, this time deeper red in colour
  • I inform hubby, who is jolted awake from his mid-morn siesta
  • everybody gets dressed, including the 2 y.o. toddler who thinks it’s time to go shopping / a walk
  • we arrive at Thomson Medical @ 11.30am, I grab a quick bite (standard CTG will last an hour at least)
  • back to the observation room at labour ward; nurse has an equally hard time as last night trying to locate the very active baby’s heartbeat
  • I send hubby home, because there’s nothing much anyone can do
  • cleared at about 1pm, and sent home without much instructions as we couldn’t reach the gynae (Good Friday, so she may be in church)

22 April, 2.30pm:

  • gynae calls and checks how I am
  • she suspects it could be ‘old blood’ from the day before, also explains that one-third of late pregnancy bleeding is by unknown causes
  • she says if bleeding starts again, I will need to be admitted into hospital, particularly if blood is pinkish or bright red in colour
  • prescribes bed-rest for rest of the day
  • day passes incident-free, just the occasional spotting

23 April, 10.40am:

  • no fresh bleeding, but some brownish discharge
  • nurse from gynae’s clinic calls, saying gynae saw my CTG report, and wants me to come in for another round of CTG (sigh)
  • I call the hubby who’s finishing breakfast with colleague nearby
  • kind colleague drives all of us to Thomson Medical
  • I grab a chocolate croissant from Delifrance enroute to clinic (it will be another hour!)
  • hubby feeds toddler outside clinic, I wait patiently for my turn at the CTG machine
  • midway through CTG, gynae arrives to explain my CTG yesterday had periods of drop in fetal heartbeat (cos baby was moving so much), so had to do another check to be sure
  • finally cleared at 1.30pm, but not before gynae said if more bleeding episodes, it would be best to deliver baby (C-section), since it could be the womb that’s bleeding (though she added it’s unlikely the case)

This Easter weekend has turned out to be too exciting and a tad too scary. Still, I’m reminded that God is in control, and He will works things out for our little family. Thank God for friends who have been praying and encouraging us! icon smile 1 Easter weekend, 2 bleeding episodes, 3 CTG scans = 1 traumatised mama

Mum’s day! It’s time-off for the mummy

With mothers’ day just around the corner, I thought it would be nice to share some ideas on how to celebrate the most selfless and giving stage of life known as motherhood - and of course, the women behind it all.

Most mums have a natural knack for devoting all their energies to nurturing others - kids, family, friends. In the midst of it all, she subconsciously and subtly forgets herself.

This mothers’ day, rather than sit around and wait for your hubby / kids? to do the honours, I hope to see all hard-working mums out there treating themselves to a little extra something…whatever works for you. Here are some ideas on how to celebrate you!

  1. Declare mum’s day off (be it your 9-to-5 job or the household chores) - Dedicate the day to indulgence or self-improvement. Get a new spunky haircut or hair colour, and engage in some retail therapy (flowers, shoes, pretty accessories, or some handmade chocolates), relax at the pool or spa. Better still, schedule some moments with a close friend that you’ve been wanting to catch up with, and share your stories over coffee and cake.
  2. Rediscover long-lost dreams - Write down a list of your dreams / goals, that one by one have been shoved under the carpet. Pick one that seems most attractive for the moment and run with it; take practical small steps, but just make things happen.
  3. Do nothing - Warning: this might be a real challenge for women who are constantly on the go. But sit down with a cup of earl grey, play your fav instrumental music, and just close your eyes (you may as well apply a facial mask while you’re at it) for a few minutes. Rediscover who you are at heart again, reflect and give thanks for life in all its ups and downs. Have a notepad and pen nearby to write down your thoughts and reflections. Be surprised at what might come out of this!
  4. Fellowship with mums - Organise a tea session for your circle of mummy friends. Alternatively, if you wish to widen your mummy network, do a friends-of-friends tea party, and get to know more mummies at the same time! There are few things that are more therapeutic than mummy-talk and heart-to-heart sharing.
  5. Share some love - To give is better than to receive. Perhaps you know someone who is in need of some help or just needs someone to talk to. Well, take that leap of faith and make that call. You never know how much this person’s life might be impacted by your little unexpected gesture of kindness. icon smile Mums day! Its time off for the mummy
  6. Pick up a craft - Plan a scrapbooking day and finally organise all those loose photos, or learn a new skill or try out a new cake / pastry recipe. (Pick up the book ‘How to be a domestic goddess’ by Nigella Lawson.) You might be thinking, why am I getting stuck in the kitchen again? Well, some mums simply are most at ease in their kitchens, and nothing like a new recipe to get you excited all over again. Just don’t see it as a chore, and don’t worry about the outcome. You might even want to get a few chef’s-hat-worthy mums to experiment together!

These are just some simple ideas that I too would like to try out sometime. After all is said and done, I still believe that the greatest reward of all is the joy of seeing your family flourishing like a well-watered garden. So, give yourself a pat on the back. You deserve to be celebrated!

“Honor her for all that her hands have done,
and let her works bring her praise at the city gate”

- Proverbs 31:31

The little boss who lives in my house

Our little inspector - Vera policing the grounds at our recent Batam getaway

Vera, age 2.0: Mummy, you sit here ok, and play with me, ok.

The way it was said, it wasn’t so much a question, but more like a statement.

Vera, age 2.0: Papa, you eat this one ok. Vera cannot eat this one. Papa, you eat ok. [nodding to herself]

Again, the ‘ok’s act like a full-stop rather than a question mark.

So, I’ve concluded we have a little boss in the house. I’m not sure if we played any part in nurturing her bossiness, but I do have a nagging suspicion that she learnt some of it from me, since her manner of speech bears an uncanny resemblance to mine.

That said, she was born with a strong character, will and personality, so that is likely a natural bedrock for bossy behaviour to thrive.

While her bossy acts can be rather enduring and palatable now, I’m starting to wonder how far it’ll develop as time goes by.

I’m starting to worry.

I’m also tempted to re-think the way I instruct and teach her (i.e. Am I too bossy as a mum?)

On a more positive note, we can see her leadership traits quite clearly now.

When she’s playing with other kids her age, she’s the one instructing them to do this and that.

She’s usually also the one initiating to change the mode of play. Funnily enough, some of the kids do follow her lead.

The questions are:
- How can we tame her big-boss attitude without quashing her leadership traits?

- How can we inculcate values such as cooperation, flexibility, and the need to consider others?

We may just have to figure some of those out along the way…