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Three things I’ve learnt from waiting

I recently shared about playing the waiting game (for the arrival of baby Javier).

Since then, I’ve been reflecting on what I’ve learnt through the waiting experience. Here are 3 lessons:

1. The period of waiting is made more bearable, and I daresay even enjoyable, by the presence of loved ones and friends. These are precious people who walk and wait alongside us, lift up our spirits, water our souls with faith-filled words, and remember our needs in prayer. And I thank God for each one of them!

2. Waiting is anticipation of the fulfillment of a need or desire. Sometimes that desire can grow so big that it stretches from one end of the horizon to the other, and cloud our ability to appreciate the sunset. Sometimes in focusing on a small detail, we may lose sight of the big picture.

3. There is beauty and purpose to be discovered in the wait. Sometimes things just don’t turn out the way we want them to, and we fail to see why. It’s like a child having his request for a candy bar rejected, or a person having to bear with unrequited love. (why why why!?)

It only requires a tweak of the mindset to see that perhaps, just perhaps, this is a moment for a character trait to be reshaped, a priority to be adjusted, a value to be learnt.

So these are my 3 takeaways from the past few weeks of waiting. No wait, I lied…there’s a 4th:

4. God has better plans and timing. Much better than what I can imagine for myself. If I would just trust in him, I will be able to see how much He has come through for me in just this pregnancy alone. And with this, I can rest assured that whatever the outcome may be, it is God’s best plan for me.

Now that’s probably my biggest lesson of all.

An encouraging word sustains the weary soul (really!)

A word in time saves nine.

Sometimes, receiving a surprise card can do wonders for the soul. Thoughtful words can help alleviate the burdens and worries of our daily lives, and lift up our spirits. As a young mother, these are like precious gems to me, and I want to remember each word said, written, or even gestured to me. Receiving also reminds me to give. Have you said a kind word to someone you love lately? Or even to the stranger on the road looking lost. An act or a word of kindness is never easily forgotten. They tend to be carried on for a long while, and hopefully passed on to many others.

Perhaps it’s also time to consider if I’ve been kind to my little toddler. (Or have I been overly demanding of a 2 y.o.?) Though her current understanding of ‘kindness’ is probably limited to:

  1. giving her her favourite foods
  2. bringing her to fun places
  3. buying her toys

Hee, but I’m sure she’ll graduate to more sophisticated forms of kindness soon.